“Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.” —Saint-Exupéry
Something I remember at this time of year: A better translation for the word “love” in the Bible would be “compassion.”
I changes everything. Imagine if couples promised to have compassion for each other instead of to love each other. It takes away the possibility of the kind of damage people inflict on each other in the name of “love,” a word that can lead to possessiveness and manipulation.
Compassionate couples trust. They don’t need to keep watchful eyes on each other. They turn outward together to look at the world in the same direction.
They don’t waste time gazing. They look at what can and needs to be done.
They take action, do good, have fun.
If Valentine’s Day can lead to a little more of that, I’ll get on board.
Rachel Plefger designed this wonderful T-shirt. The shirt itself bears the word “Hate,” but when you stand beside a mirror, the reflection reads “Love.”
At first I wondered why the designer put the word Hate on the shirt instead of Love. After all, anyone wearing it without the benefit of a mirror permanently at their side would walk around with Hate being their only message. This would not make for good first impressions.
But when I thought about it a little more, I realized that this way, upon reflection, Hate transforms into Love. Something negative becomes something positive.
If it were the other way around, upon reflection, Love would transform into Hate. Something positive would become something negative.
It also speaks to me about the potential for good. Sometimes we look at people or situations, and all we can see is the negative, the hate. Without the necessary equipment in place to allow us to view the flip side, we forget that any time there is hate, there is the potential for love.
Like Nemo and telling his father that he hates him in Finding Nemo, what appears on the surface as hate is actually love. We just need the right lenses, the right equipment, to see it.
Upon reflection, I’m with Rachel. I’ll go with Hate transforming into Love.