The secret to a lasting marriage: no wine before its time

What qualities do you/did you seek in a spouse?

Good looks? Athletic figure? Thick wallet? Steady job?

All of the above?

According to some marriage experts, the qualities we should seek are faith and perseverance.

I went to a wedding on the weekend. The bride and groom chose John 2:1-11 as one of their scriptures: the wedding feast at Cana. The story of Jesus turning water into wine is one of the most famous biblical passages. (It also gave great hope for a really enjoyable feast to all the wedding guests gathered there.)

The officiate at the ceremony was a family member of the bride, so he prepared lovingly for the day. During the weeks before the ceremony, his work as clergy took him to several communities of senior citizens (the marriage experts I referred to earlier). What he heard from seniors who had been married 40, 50, 60-plus years, was this: the best is saved for last.

A marriage begins with a joyous celebration of feasting and toasting. Then, the decades bring lean times or bleak times when it becomes possible to believe that the wine will run out. The secret to lasting marriage is the faith to foresee renewal and transformation, and the perseverance to hang in there for the high quality wine.


About Arlene Somerton Smith

Writer, laughing thinker, miner of inspirational insights, sports fan, and community volunteer

Posted on May 22, 2012, in good faith, Inspiration, Living life to the fullest, metaphor, modern faith, progressive christianity, spirit and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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