- Long-lasting happiness doesn’t come through material things or self-indulgence; it comes from making a valuable contribution to society.
- Life-long learning enriches the self and society.
- You can’t control other people’s actions or emotions.
At the beginning of the movie, Phil Connors (Bill Murray) is a self-centred, cynical jerk. Through an unexplained circumstance he finds himself living and reliving February 2—Groundhog Day—over and over and over. Every day after his clock radio clicks over to 6:00 a.m. and he hears the same Sonny and Cher song, he meets the same people and re-lives the same events, trying to figure out what he has to do to escape the repetitive loop. Goofing off on the job doesn’t do it. Eating every creamy dessert in sight doesn’t help. Suicide attempts don’t work. When he falls in love with Rita (Andie MacDowell) he tries to make her fall in love with him. He pretends to be something he isn’t. He plays tricks, and he pushes too fast, too soon.
- Eventually, day after day, he begins to notice people he can help: women in a car with a flat tire on Main Street, a choking victim in the restaurant, or the homeless man in the alley.
- Eventually, he decides to learn new things: he becomes an excellent piano player, a master ice sculptor, and learns to speak French.
- Eventually, he evolves into a compassionate, interested person who allows others to be where they are.
That is, of course, when the cycle breaks.
If I were to mention the three themes above in casual conversation, most people would nod in agreement. True, long-lasting happiness doesn’t come from a store. True, learning new things just makes life so darned interesting. True, we can’t control or other people’s actions or emotions.
But those commonly accepted rules aren’t so easy to live.
We act a certain way, even if it’s not an authentic way for us, to try to make people like us. We try to shape other people according to our expectations. We push them to quit smoking, get fit, wear different clothes, change their hair, get higher grades, quit drinking . . .
We come up with excuses to avoid new challenges. We’re too tired, too old, too young, have no time, no money, no proper equipment . . .
And no matter how much we know that material things or self-indulgence won’t bring us long-term happiness, we still pine for a new car, Häagen-Dazs Dark Chocolate, a designer bag, a 52-inch flat screen, the latest electronic gadget . . .
If you never watched Groundhog Day, or if you dismissed it as a mindless lark, I invite you to visit it, or revisit it, over and over and over. It seems the themes need repeating.