How to respect other (sport) religions

942719_504226456292469_1866570234_nI received this image on one of my social media feeds.

I like what the Salt Project has to say about religious respect. After the hockey events of the past week here in Canada’s capital, I thought that the same principles could apply to our sports religions.

I wrote earlier about the stewpot of hockey rivalry in our area. That was my way of trying to come to peace with residents of my town who support opposing teams. Playoff action creates even more tension. Above all else, people, we need to get along and respect each other. I invite you to adopt the Salt Project’s suggestions:

1. Educate yourself: Find out the history of your own organization and others. If you disagree with an action of someone on an opposing sports team, chances are your research will expose a similar transgression by someone on the team you support.

2. Be amazed or even converted into a better version of yourself: Allow room for awe, no matter the source, or the team. Try appreciating quality plays by either team. I think you will find you feel calmer and happier.

3. Be patient – Don’t form opinions too soon: Let time, or replays, mellow those knee-jerk reactions.

4. Build relationships: Nothing  breaks down barriers like getting to know someone who holds an opposing viewpoint and discovering that they really aren’t so bad. Get to know someone who supports another team and look for something to admire.

5. Keep your sense of humour handy: This is good advice every day, but especially when it comes to sports. Sports are supposed to be fun, for the players and the fans. If animosity ruins the fun, there’s something wrong.

6. Ask questions – Listen: This is part two of Educate Yourself. As you build relationships with other people, suss out the roots of their dedication to their team. Ask them about their past experiences as a fan. Find out what fires their passion. Listen without injecting your own opinions into the mix.

7. Say “I don’t understand – yet”: If you feel strongly about your team, you likely won’t change your allegiances after a few conversations. That’s OK. Some day you might. Leave room for that possibility.

8. Experience how others worship: Step into the milieu of the fans of the opposition. Try on one of their jerseys. Maybe a little of the mojo will seep into you.

9. Honour Convictions – Don’t try to remake people into your own image: The people with whom you build relationships aren’t likely to change your mind after a few conversations, right? You’re not going to change theirs either. Honour their convictions and accept.

10. Eat together, play together, and hold each other’s babies: A game of pick-up road hockey followed by a pizza feast, perhaps? Let your kids play together. Build relationships through food and fun.

11. Embrace mystery: Anything can happen in sports. Open yourself to the mysterious possibilities and embrace whatever comes.

12. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you: Ah, the Golden Rule. Always good to keep in mind.

Above all else, we need to get along and respect each other.

Christmas traditions and why you may, or may not, need a cat

 Are you trapped in your traditions? Do they serve you, or do you serve them?

I pondered this question after reading a Paulo Coelho blog piece about an ancient Japanese story, which I will paraphrase here:

A great Zen Buddhist master had a cat. The cat was his constant companion even during the meditation classes he led. When the old master passed away, another disciple took his place and continued to allow the cat to join in meditation. When the original cat died, the disciples missed its presence, so they found another.

Disciples from other regions heard about the cat who attended meditation classes, and spread the story around to others. These disciples believed that the cat was the reason for the greatness of the Zen Buddhist master. Other temples began to bring cats to class.

Meditation

Meditation (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn)

Eventually, writings began to appear about the importance of the presence of cats during meditation. A university professor studied the issue and wrote a thesis about the effects of cats on concentration and energy. Disciples began to believe that cats were essential to meditation.

Soon, an instructor who was allergic to cats decided to remove the animal from his daily classes. Other disciples were aghast and reacted negatively, believing the cat to be essential to their success. But his students made the same progress even without the cat.

Generations passed and, one by one, monasteries began removing cats from meditation. After all, it was quite a burden feeding all those cats. In fact, students began to study the benefits of meditating without animals.  More time passed until “cat,” or “no cat” was no longer a matter of consideration. But it took many years for the full cycle, because “during all this time, no one asked why the cat was there.”

Christmas—one of the most tradition-bound times of the year. Christmas trees, parties with too much rum eggnog, shortbread, gifts, overspending on gifts, turkey, family gatherings, family fights, church services, candles, crèches, Santa, pageants, carols . . .. These things have been part of our current version of the holidays for so long we have started to believe that Christmas is not Christmas without them. If we were to suggest not including them, people would react with aghast negativity.

Why are those “cats” in the room? Is feeding them becoming a burden?

Christmas means different things to different people. For me, it recalls the birth of a compassionate movement toward “all is one.” It recalls the birth of a man who lived the idea that every person contains the divine spark. As I meditate my way toward Christmas this year, whether I invite some of those “cats” to join me or not, the movement toward “all is one” by those of us lit with the divine spark continues regardless.

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Be entertained and learn something, too. Visit Paulo Coelho’s blog at: http://paulocoelhoblog.com/

Teach our children to think: a move away from fear-based education

Yesterday an Ottawa school cancelled a field trip because one parent was afraid.

Students at St. Peter Catholic School were to travel to the U.S. to experience election activity first-hand. When a parent expressed concern that the teenagers might be exposed to opinions that did not mesh with hers, and those she projects onto all Catholics, the principal cancelled the field trip. (Read the Ottawa Citizen story here: School trip cancelled amid pro-choice controversy.

This parent didn’t consider that the students might make the trip, hear those opinions and then reach the same conclusion as she did. Instead, she wanted to deny students access to information.

That is the opposite of what education is about.

Education is about fearlessly exposing our children to the broadest spectrum of information available. It’s about teaching them to separate credible sources from non-credible sources. It’s about teaching them to think critically about the best possible information and then to form well thought out opinions, even if those opinions differ from those of parents.

It’s about teaching them “to think,” not “what to think.”

After all, if you’re afraid that information that opposes your point of view might change someone’s mind, then maybe the foundations of what you believe are a little shakier than you’re willing to admit.

My short story: What is God, if not “Open”?

A few years ago at a book study the people in the group were asked to write a short paragraph in answer to the question “What is God?”

An image popped into my head of a universe that operated like an infinite library full of books. Different books awaited different people. Some people refused to open their books out of fear. Other people refused to even believe the books were there. Still others believed that their books should be everyone else’s books, too.

At the centre of this universe lay the creative force; the nothing out of which everything arises. From that image, I wrote the short story “Open“.

(Dear Mom: Yes, it’s weird. But at least it’s not about dead people.)

Open

© Arlene Somerton Smith

A book glows neon blue. It hums and flickers, waiting, hoping, amongst dark leather-bound volumes of all sizes on the dusty shelves.

A rumpled man lingers, sneaking furtive glances at the book. He checks over his shoulder, takes a tentative step forward and then retreats. He swigs Canadian Club, sways on his feet and scrunches his dirty hair with a trembling hand.

A woman in a simple brown dress approaches, lays a hand on his arm and smiles. “There are books for you,” she says.

His bloodshot eyes widen. He squares to the shelves and takes a deep breath. The book gleams for him. He staggers forward. Snatches it. The binding warms to his hands and the neon blue thaws to summer yellow. The smooth cover melds into the shape of his hands like it was created for him. The book purrs. The rumpled man slowly brings the contented book to his nose and inhales. “Homemade bread,” he whispers, “and fresh strawberry jam.”

The book vibrates gently. The man kneels on the floor and sets the book before him. His trembling hands open it a crack. A bright white light bursts forth and a fortissimo version of “Amazing Grace” ascends into the endless heights.

“Aaahhh!” He hurls the book away and scrambles backward to cower against the deep mahogany shelves, hands over his eyes. The book lies open. The dazzling light blazes up and amazing grace flows forth.

The deep mahogany shelves run in a vast circle around this library universe, filled top to bottom with tomes of earthy knowledge, manuscripts of mystical wisdom and poetic collections of rainbow-colored devotion to lure the senses of those with eyes to see and ears to hear.

Around the circle, eight library ladders rest ready between eight evenly spaced wooden pillars carved with elaborately detailed planets, DNA strands, and star clusters. The carvings on these mighty totem poles quiver in shimmering light cast by tall ivory candles mounted on the side. Rivulets of molten wax form volcanic works of art on the ancient candles.

The deep mahogany shelves encircle a world of all kinds of different bustling people doing all kinds of different bustling things. At the heart of this universe, an immense orb of liquid light hovers and crackles with energy. At the very centre of this orb is the nothing that creates infinity. A still point. Zero.

The rumpled man cringes against the shelves, knees drawn to his chest. Through gaps in his fingers he peers at the book. The blazing light magnetizes him, unfurls his body and draws him on hands and knees toward the beam. When he reaches the open pages, he leans forward and allows the rays to illuminate him. His rumpled spirit breaks open and amazing grace flows through him. “So that’s love,” he says.

In another part of the circle the woman in the simple brown dress approaches two men at a cluster of café tables. They wear black Ralph Lauren turtlenecks and take long drags on Player’s Extra Lights. One man with black seagull eyebrows and Elvis Presley sideburns waggles a pointed black shoe at the end of an angular crossed leg.

There are books for you,” the woman says.

One seagull eyebrow cocks with disdain and an angular arm reaches for his half-sweet vanilla soy latte. “Books? I don’t believe in books.” The orb of liquid light glows in his black eyes.

His friend crosses his arms and says, ‘There are no such things as books. You are crazy.”

The woman acknowledges them with a gentle nod and walks on. She comes upon a line of women, kneeling with their covered heads touching the ground. They all face the same direction. In front of them lies a single ancient book.

Next to them, men and women mill about within the enclosed walls of a fortress built out of books. All the book bricks of their stronghold are the same. A bearded man with a jagged scar on his cheek peeks through a cross-shaped artillery hole. He yells at the line of women. “That is the wrong book. We have the only right book.”

The intensity of their worship closes the ears of the praying women. They do not raise their heads or acknowledge him.

The woman in the simple brown dress continues her stroll around the space. She leaves behind the line of kneeling women and the fortress and stops to watch a crowded stream of people running in circles. Among the crowd, a businesswoman walks quickly, talking on her Blackberry; a lawyer in a black cashmere Hugo Boss suit checks his Rolex, clutches his briefcase and picks up his pace; a harried mother hurries by dragging two crying children behind her. They rush, oblivious to books within easy reach. They never glance at the orb of liquid light so close to them.

The woman in the simple brown dress steps into the stream of people. She stands unmoving, feeling the current wash by her. The businesswoman, the lawyer and the harried mother scurry by her again, and again, and again. Finally, when the lawyer approaches one more time, she reaches out and stops him with a gentle touch. He yanks his arm away and snaps, “Yes? What do you want?”

There are books for you.”

He rolls his eyes and puffs out exasperation. “I have no time for books.” He checks his Rolex, clutches his briefcase and hurries away. The businesswoman and the harried mother rush by again.

The woman in the simple brown dress walks away from this distracted circle of urgency and steps up to a nearby laboratory. Researchers in white lab coats gaze into microscopes or examine blue or purple liquids in test tubes. Sulphurous steam rises out of beakers bubbling all around them. Books disappear and then reappear across the room. Sometimes the same book is in two places at once.

In one corner of the lab a teenager with electrodes attached to her head sits in a chair leafing through a book. A young female apprentice jots notes on a clipboard as she watches an electronic display of the reader’s brain. “It’s remarkable,” she says. “The brain clearly is responding to some sort of stimuli, but there’s nothing there.”

A scientist with magnifying glasses propped on the end of his nose scrapes dust off the surface of a large orange book and deposits the dust on a glass slide. He observes it through a microscope and scratches his bald head. “Just when I think I’m onto something . . .”

There are books for you,” the woman says to the back of his bald head.

The scientist turns to her and leans back in his chair. “I’d like to believe you.” He shakes his head. “But tests are inconclusive.”

“You need tests?”

The scientist laughs. “Of course we do. We need to test and retest. Always come up with new hypotheses and experiments.”

“Maybe you’re testing in the wrong way?”

“The wrong way?” He shakes his head. “No. Science is the only way.”

“I’ll leave you to it then.”

Next to the lab, a man in a saffron robe sits in the lotus position facing the shelves. All the books in front of him radiate soft light. As she approaches, the woman in the simple brown dress hears the soft murmur of mantra ripple around him. She pauses. She listens. She shares in the meditative peace. Into a moment of silence, she speaks.

There are people for you.”

Silence lingers. His mantra resumes.

A gentle scent of roses draws the woman to a group of people sharing a pool of the ancient candlelight together. Here a middle-aged bearded man leans back in his plush chair to feel the music of Mozart vibrate from old leather-bound pages. Across from him, the golden light of a small book reflects on the face of a woman with long dark hair. Her inspirational light whispers, “See the light. Make the light. Be the light.” Next to her, a young couple appreciate full-dimensional versions of the art of Leonardo da Vinci and Michelangelo rising from glossy pages. Closest to the totem pole pillar, a serene young woman scribbles in a well-worn journal.

There are books for you,” the woman in the simple brown dress says to the group.

The readers glance up. They see an iridescent angel glow.

The young woman sets down her journal and pen. “I know,” she says. “Would you like to join us?” She opens her arms to welcome the messenger.

© Arlene Somerton Smith

Darwin fish and Jesus fish: complementary, not contradictory

I drove my son to his baseball game on Wednesday night.

[TIME OUT FOR PARENTAL BRAGGING: He hit a home run. He is awesome. OK, BACK TO BUSINESS]

We pulled up at a red light behind a Toyota with a Darwin fish on the back bumper.

“That is excellent,” he said. (My son is all about science.)

“Have you never seen that before?” I asked.

“No, I’ve only ever seen the Jesus fish ones, but that is great. It must really irritate fundamentalist Christians, though.”

“It might,” I said.

Then, struck by inspiration, I said, “Hey, I should get one of each.”

“Oh, right. ‘Cause you’re all science and story.”

“Yes! Darwin and the divine.”

“People would just think that there were two people in the house who couldn’t agree, so they got one of each.”

“Hmmm . . . You could be right.”

My son had hit on the key issue.

He’s right. People would assume conflict. We’re still shaking off the age of reason, so people would assume these two ideas to be incompatible. It’s still a reflex in our society to separate faith and science, when they are really comfortably complementary.

More and more scientists speak openly about faith without fear of being called looney-tunes for their beliefs. More and more people in churches, temples or mosques reject calls for blind faith.

Now I think I will get a Darwin fish and a Jesus fish.

I’ll place them on my car so they kiss each other.

Creation from many perspectives

Beware of a man of one book.  —English Proverb

On this date in 1925, the state of Tennessee made it illegal to teach evolution in any state-funded school. The Butler Act stipulated that teaching about evolution would deny the factual truth of the creation story in the Bible.

(Which biblical creation story, I wonder? There are two)

This led to the famous Scopes trial and decades of debate about creationism and evolution. Even though the act was repealed in 1967, incredibly, there is still controversy about teaching the theory of evolution.

Now, 87 years later, we live in an electronically connected global village. We search the internet to enrich our imaginations with the creation stories of cultures from around the world—including those in the Bible. We read many books full of detailed scientific information about the big bang and evolution. What a wealth of resources we have to feed our full and balanced educations.

Beware of an education of one book.